Last week I was in San Francisco for a wedding that I was privileged to officiate. It was a beautiful wedding and here is a little bit of what I shared.
”Lastly, and perhaps most importantly, compromise. And you might think, “compromise”, is that a good thing? Isn’t compromise something you shouldn’t do? You know, you should be a person of principles. Do what is right. Don’t give in, and stand up for what you believe.
Yes, that is all true. But, in marriage, there are MANY, MANY things that are not a matter of right and wrong. There is no principles to keep, other than the principle of love. As you are committed to love each other, and truly communicate (ie. listen to each other), you will want to give in to the other person, let go of your agendas and your “rights” and meet the other person half way, if not all the way.
You know, compromising isn’t a sign of weakness. It actually is a sign of strength. It requires a great amount of inner strength (spiritual strength) to let go of your self and let the other person have his/her way!”
I think I spoke this part most passionately because I was also preaching to my self. May we all experience the beauty and the strength of compromises in our lives.